It is not about me, or you, it is about us

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Author: Kevin Baker @ 08/03/09 - 12:46 am

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We all strive to achieve what we perceive is happiness. For most of us that would be above all else the relationship you have with your spouse. Our partner in the ongoing strife called life.

It is a fact that most humans never know what freedom actually is. Freedom is living completely vulnerable.
Having nothing held back and showing all of us to another human being. Happiness grows from actually knowing everything about a person and they still want to stay.

How many of us are just playing the roll. Portraying what we want others to perceive us as. Never just being straight up. The fantasy eventually becomes their reality. And the reality is they are the only ones who believe they are actually pulling it off. Sad that.

When you finally see that vulnerable side. The raw side of a persons heart. It is humbling and reminds me of the message that always comes with it. Am I capable of living up to that unspoken expectation.

Don't walk away because not all of me is pretty.

If your only looking for that flaw. You will never be disappointed, even you have them.

When two people are past this learning curve about each other one of two things happen.
1. They use the petty excuses to cowardly dismiss the other because they are just like them.
2. They grow closer.

I observe people not by what they say but what they do.

This choice in our relationships is inevitable and unavoidable. It always comes up eventually.

The majority of people do not risk vulnerability, and yet they are the ones who are most disappointed with life.
They are disappointed with themselves not having that courage and require someone else to be at blame.

Not a coincidence.

Make the effort to reveal your true self. If rejected be grateful. They have saved you precious time and personal effort. Extend the gratitude, the players will suffer, not you.
Ever look at one who holds onto emotions, they have an empty hand. More important then that is they have nothing in reserve to hold their spine up. They crumble and implode within.

Contentment is having no fear, after having risked all vulnerability and your spouse still wants to stay.
Take that time to reflect and count your blessing.
Make effort to reward this person, a few words is all that is needed. ""I noticed""

It is all about us.

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