Finding your Grounding

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Author: Kevin Baker @ 09/01/08 - 03:22 am

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Finding what ungrounded you is the first place to look for what will ground you. Its a matter of elimination, going through in your mind and finding the psychological triggers that invoke your anxieties and fears.
That result in the behavior """cognitive dissonance""" and """ambivalence"""...

Main Entry: grounded
Function: adjective
Date: 1958
: Mentally and emotionally stable: admirably sensible, realistic, and unpretentious
remains grounded despite all the praise and attention

Every one desires a calm and stable existence. Being well grounded is the foundation of having a fully functional and happy life.
The following are dictionary entries that cause the lack of grounding and then how to alleviate yourself of this circle.

Main Entry: Anxiety
Function: noun
Date: circa 1525
1 a: painful or apprehensive uneasiness of mind usually over an impending or anticipated ill b: fearful concern or interest c: a cause of anxiety2: an abnormal and overwhelming sense of apprehension and fear often marked by physiological signs (as sweating, tension, and increased pulse), by doubt concerning the reality and nature of the threat, and by self-doubt about one's capacity to cope with it

Main Entry: Fear 2
Function: noun
Date: 12th century
1 a: an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger b (1): an instance of this emotion (2): a state marked by this emotion2: anxious concern: solicitude3: profound reverence and awe especially toward God4: reason for alarm: danger

Definitions are a noun. You decide why.

Main Entry: cognitive dissonance
Function: noun
Date: 1957
: Psychological conflict resulting from incongruous beliefs and attitudes held simultaneously

When we experience anxiety or fear, it triggers our cognitive dissonance, which is the result of the trigger not the cause. It basically means that your mind is trying to believe in what it knows is not true. The resulting behavior is ambivalence when not grounded.

Main Entry: am•biv•a•lence
Function: noun
Etymology: International Scientific Vocabulary
Date: 1918
1: simultaneous and contradictory attitudes or feelings (as attraction and repulsion) toward an object, person, or action2 a: continual fluctuation (as between one thing and its opposite) b: uncertainty as to which approach to follow

Examples of Un-grounding
1.) Lying ||||||| Not telling someone the whole truth.
2.) Wanting to show feelings and then hesitating.
3.) Seeing signs of behavior changes not explained in others.
4.) Being separated from loved ones.
5.) Losing a treasured sentimental item.
6.) No spiritual convictions.
7.) Losing touch with morals and values.
8.) Not knowing what is affecting you emotionally.
9.) Fear of being dead.
10.) Fear of being alone.

Examples of grounding.
1.) Always telling the whole truth.
2.) Showing your feelings, risking vulnerability.
3.) Sensing the signals why people change. IE. Control issues,Jealousy,
4.) Contacting loved ones that are separated from you anyway you can.
5.) Realizing what you lost was the item, not what it meant.
6.) Explore your spirituality and all the choices.
7.) Re-instate your moral fibre and values of your morals.
8.) Talk to someone until your triggers come out. Then they stop affecting you.
9.) Explore what dead really means to you. Accept the inevitable.
10.) Lonely and lonesome are two different things. If you have yourself, your not alone.

To alleviate ambivalence one must find within themselves the trigger that causes it and evaluate what is the real truth about the issue or situation. We go through this process of evaluation many times each day. Most people avoid what is un-grounding them and keep looking for outside input that will somehow balance the un-grounding that we cause within ourselves. This does not work, as the resulting whiplash of the reoccurring un-grounding trigger never goes away until it is addressed in full and dealt with in its entirety.

To bring about true grounding takes the greatest courage. Risk all vulnerability, and live free from fear.

Truth: IF you believe you can avoid your own Karma, you will suffer needlessly.

Quote: "This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man."
--William Shakespear

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